Newspaper columnist and minister George Crane tells of a wife who came into his office full of hatred toward her husband. “I not only want to get rid of him, I want to get even. Before I divorce him, I want to hurt him as much as he has me.”
Dr. Crane suggested an ingenious plan “Go home and act as if you really love your husband. Tell him how much he means to you. Be as kind, considerate, and generous as possible. Make him believe you love him. When he is convinced of your undying love then drop the bomb. Tell him that your’re getting a divorce. That will really hurt him.” With revenge in her eyes, she smiled. For two months she showed love, kindness, listening, giving, reinforcing, honoring, sharing. After two months Dr. Crane called. “Are you ready now to go through with the divorce?”Divorce?” she exclaimed. “Never! I discovered I really do love him.”
Her actions had changed her feelings. Motion resulted in emotion. Friends, the ability to love is established not so much by fervent promise as often repeated deeds. Love is an “action” word.
Today, make up your mind to “show” love to your spouse and family. There is nothing more powerful then a made up mind determined to “show” love.
Randy